My story of what its like to be married to an Amway cult follower. I expose the lies that our upline told and what happens at Amway meetings and functions. I leave the explanations of why Amway is a poor business opportunity or the tool scam to other bloggers. This blog mainly exists to curse out my former upline, aka the cult leaders, and to let everyone know what kind of idiots I had to put up with. Feel free to join in or live vicariously!
Sunday, August 21, 2011
IBOs Not Minding Their Own Business
6 comments:
Comments are moderated but we publish just about everything. Even brainwashed ambots who show up here to accuse us of not trying hard enough and that we are lazy, quitters, negative, unchristian dreamstealers. Like we haven’t heard that Amspeak abuse from the assholes in our upline!
If your comment didn’t get published it could be one of these reasons:
1. Is it the weekend? We don’t moderate comments on weekends. Maybe not every day during the week either. Patience.
2. Racist/bigoted comments? Take that shit somewhere else.
3. Naming names? Public figures like politicians and actors and people known in Amway are probably OK – the owners, Diamonds with CDs or who speak at functions, people in Amway’s publicity department who write press releases and blogs. Its humiliating for people to admit their association with Amway so respect their privacy if they’re not out there telling everyone about the love of their life.
4. Gossip that serves no purpose. There are other places to dish about what Diamonds are having affairs or guessing why they’re getting divorced. If you absolutely must share that here – don’t name names. I get too many nosy ambots searching for this. Lets not help them find this shit.
5. Posting something creepy anonymously and we can’t track your location because you’re on a mobile device or using hide my ass or some other proxy. I attracted an obsessed fan and one of my blog administrators attracted a cyberstalker. Lets keep it safe for everyone. Anonymous is OK. Creepy anonymous and hiding – go fuck yourselves!
6. Posting something that serves no purpose other than to cause fighting.
7. Posting bullshit Amway propaganda. We might publish that comment to make fun of you. Otherwise take your agenda somewhere else. Not interested.
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Hi Anna,
ReplyDeleteI've always wondered... do you know if your platinum, or any of the other upline you dealt with, is aware of your blog and may actually read what you write about them? I know your blog is anonymous, but just curious if anyone in Amway may have ever read it and thought "wow, that sure sounds like so and so's situation". Or maybe your story is so similar to thousands of other marriages that had the Amway virus infecting them that you could easily be one of thousands of other wives who would love to strangle the collective throats of their Amway uplines that damaged their relationships with their cult. ;)
~Dave
Hi Dave, I have no way of knowing that my Platinum or anyone else upline is reading my blog. I doubt it. They don't read "negative" aka the truth. They're also too arrogant to recognize this is them in the starring role of my blog. They think everyone loves them and worships them.
ReplyDeleteThe good thing about keeping the blog anonymous is that all IBO's who come here to read and have (had?) a downline can never be quite sure that this blog isn't all about them! As you suggested, there are too many of us who have the same story. When I read Merchants of Deception I was stunned by how similar everything he went through 10 years earlier could have been my story too. Except for the fact that we never had any downline and he made it to Emerald level. The abuse, the training, the endless Amway meetings, they're all the same.
People reading my blog are not exactly anonymous. I don't know who my readers are and have no way of tracking who my visitors are but I can see where my visitors are from and what search criteria they used to end up at my blog. I know when Joecool's stalker from Scarborough Canada shows up here. I also know when someone from Alticor/Amway is reading my blog. Those are basically the only readers I want to know when they're here. Though when someone leaves me a really bizarre canned Amspeak comment I'll see if I can figure out what town they're from. Usually Scarborough!
That said people can change their IP addresses. There is software that can show you're from another town, another state, another country. I'm positive at least one of my visitors uses this. Also I get Anonymous Proxy quite a bit. Those are websites where someone can go and type in a URL and visit a web page without having their IP location tracked. For all I know that could be my former upline though somehow I doubt they'd go to that trouble. They're too busy scamming people to spend much time on the Internet.
No one within 200 miles of my home is reading my blog so that rules out my former upline. Maybe once or twice a month searchers within 50 miles end up here after doing a search for some Amway function but they don't stick around. Who knows? My former upline? Not consistent. Maybe they're too scared to read anything else because maybe just maybe this blog is all about them.....
That sucks. I am still part of the business (I haven't had your experience and maybe that's why I like it? Who knows?) and refuse to let our coaches get into our marriage. That's not their place and I feel your frustration. I suggested counseling to help us get over a rough patch and my husband immediately named our coach. I have not mentioned counseling again. On the other hand, my coaches never hound me. They don't stalk me. They don't push tools on me and I will be dammed if they get into our personal business. Now I do know of some jacka** coaches who are waaaay too intrusive and chatty and I loathe them with everything in me. These are the same people that take everything too seriously and are stuck up little bitches anyway. *Note- I don't get along well with many of the "down home country wives" and thank God my upline's wife isn't like that at ALLLL. Again, sucks to hear you had a crappy experience and good for you for standing up for yourself.
ReplyDeleteHi Anonymous. I recognize that other people's Amway experiences are different and some have upline that they say are wonderful - whether they're being truthful or not I don't know! We were in WWDB which has a bad reputation for downline abuse which we were victims of. You don't say how long you've been in Amway. Most people quit in about 8 months, give or take 5 months. Just watch out for your upline's influence over your husband. That is where they go in for the separate and divide strategy. That concerns me over how your husband wants to counsel with upline over marital problems when it is highly unlikely that anyone in your upline has the degrees or qualifications to be offering such services. Not that that would stop them! Keep an eye on your expenses. Keep a profit and loss sheet and it wouldn't hurt to have an accountant go over it with you or some other disinterested (not Amway related) party go over your financial statement and give you an honest assessment of your business.
ReplyDeleteI know I'm not the only one who had a crappy experience in Amway - stories similar to mine all over the Internet. I'm just one of the rare few who keeps a blog up and running about the abuse and how our upline treated us.
Good luck to you.
Can you imagine asking one of these cult leaders to buy a car,get married,or if they should be allowed to purchase a home. Counselling with the upline is just so wrong and with the topic...they dont mind their own business.
ReplyDeleteYou're right Colin. Part of becoming an adult is learning to make wise decisions. Its OK to ask for advice and then do with it what you will. To have another adult order you around and tell you to ask permission is slavery. Or part of being a cult follower. If someone doesn't ask for advice and someone else sticks their nose in where its not wanted or appreciated it can only lead to anger.
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