And I have been doing this for the past 9 months. I told her, all I ask is that you find the strength to get yourself some help. For the past 9 months, maybe longer she has been searching. I really don't know what to do because I love her so much. And because of that I feel like by being there for her I am actually hurting her. I am not letting her hit rock bottom so she will never get help. But I am willing to stick out the depression.
But this Amway situation, I cannot deal with. I told her, Amway is not the answer. With Amway you will work more than 8 hours a day. It takes so much more energy to sell people bullshit, especially when you are a moral person like my girlfriend and know you are selling them shit they do not need. You are in the business of hurting other people.
And frankly its making me furious, I can understand that my girlfriend is depressed and so cannot work. But she has no problem going to Amway meetings. So am I punk, am I getting suckered? Is she just feeding me that B.S. so she does not have to work? We are not even married, I’m in my mid 20s and I’m supporting someone who is possibly just living off of me. Still, most of the time I think she is really depressed, she cries a lot, can’t get out of bed some days at all. But if she is going to get out of bed for something its going to be Amway. That makes me feel like I am being used. That’s my feeling, logically I know its not true. But it seems that Amway is more important than dealing with the depression, more important than me, more important than everything.
But Amway has an emotional hold on people. This cult preys on people who’s rational thinking is not working. Amway is at this very moment killing my girlfriend’s mom. Killing her mom by convincing her not to take her medication. Sure, most Amway people will start out by stating they are not doctors, but they will then pretty much tell you that they know what they are talking about. My gf’s sister convinced their mom to stop taking the blood thinners and if you are a sick older parent what are you going to do, not trust your children? Hopefully lol.
You guys all have a lot of experience with this and I know that reason has little to with Amway. Its all emotional. People buy on emotion, people sell on emotion. Its all about the dream. I know I have written a manuscript (taken 2 posts). Hope you will forgive me. Please give me some ideas of how to reach my girlfriend on an emotional level. To help her see emotionally that this is not the right choice. She understands logically, she's told me herself. But emotionally I cannot reach her.